There are a bunch of things that we need to do as well as things that we don’t need to do in order to survive in a long distance relationship (LDR). You’ll read in this article a few things that we have compiled over the years when it comes to LDR Dos and Don’ts.
Although they may appear simple, when it comes to the actual execution, it might take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your LDR. Consider some of the below advice and together with your desire, I am confident that you will be able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.
Some things you should do:
It’s a great idea to build a hobby that the two of you can share together. By building and keeping a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your LDR. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach ability, but never leave out a conventional hobby as well because you don’t need to have your partner’s physical presence to share a hobby.
The very first thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Many people will think that telephone is the most convenient mode of communication but apart from the telephone services, there are some other alternatives you can utilize. Instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.
Some things that you shouldn’t do:
One of the mistakes that an LDR couple often makes is to settle for a temporary replacement when their significant other is not physically present. By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your relationship to risk, but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be done intentionally, this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.
Most of the failures in long distance relationships are attributed to the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This is caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In a LDR, both partners must be committed and proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.
There is no room for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive it, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. It is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.