Whenever we hear teenagers telling their parents that times are different now, we often roll our eyes in disagreement, laugh and quickly dismiss this (very reasonable) statement as an immature rant from someone who has not seen the world yet,
Actually, it’s true. Times have changed, and with it, several rules in the dating game. Here are a few things you have to remember if you don’t want to be obsolete.
No More Waiting Game.
Gone are the days when you’d have to wait for three days to call or text or private message that hot college professor after your first date. We live in the age of instants and patience is no longer a popular virtue. It may be just a waste of time.
Play Coy At Your Own Risk.
Sometimes, making your new found love interest work for your attention can be worth it. But playing hard to get might just push the person away instead of drawing him closer. It’s always better to try things out and realize it doesn’t work out than forever be haunted by “If only I…”
Technology provides countless ways to communicate and reach out to people all over the globe. Be familiar with Skype and you might just make that long distance relationship work.
Be Careful What You Share.
If he is anything sensible, the first thing a blind date would do is Google you and needless to say the results would include everything you post online – yes, all the pictures from that wild Spring break to the mushy, face palm-worthy (and eventually, maybe really angry) tweets and wall posts between you and your ex. So unless it’s fine by you to be pre-judged, make sure none of your indecent and embarrassing posts are searchable.
Marriage Is No Longer Always the Goal.
Say goodbye to the “spinster” stigma and hello to the “strong, independent woman”. Nowadays, more and more couple are opting to live together, have families and share a life without having to marry. Marriage is beautiful but thanks to Hollywood and probably to the tragic divorce stories dominating the news, a long-term happy relationship (even without the papers) is something to be thankful for.
Never Assume Exclusivity.
I cannot emphasize this more. With the internet and all, there are more ways to reach out to potential dates, and multi-dating is slowly being accepted as part of our culture. Hanging out a lot doesn’t mean commitment and showing passion doesn’t mean “in a relationship”. Sometimes, it’s a really good idea to just safeguard your emotions until things (and Facebook status) are clear.
40 is the New 30.
People are becoming more career-oriented and success-oriented than before. Now, men often build businesses and empires in their 20s and then play in their 40s so you might want to widen your dating parameters. After all, the more mature the better the lover.
How about you? What changes have you noticed in the dating scene?